Sunday, August 14, 2011

It is official: I hate dating.

I had another one last night. A date, that is. It wasn't necessarily a bad date. He was a gentleman. He had a quasi-plan for activities. He was really quite sweet.

But, in the wide spectrum of male to female sizing ratios, the dear man made me feel much more like this:





than this:
(Neither are preferable, of course. But these are the two ends of the aforementioned spectrum.)

I am not a tall girl. In fact, I'd say I'm just shy of average. But Mr. Former Soccer Player had me feeling like a fire-breathing, genetically mutated, mythological dragon towering over the helpless streets of Tokyo. And I only had on a slim 1 1/2" wedge: small potatoes in the stilettoed world of women's footwear. I spent the evening feeling astronomically gargantuan and it just wasn't good for this chubby girl's ego. He certainly didn't mind; and, if my radar is adjusted correctly, I think he was jonesing for another date towards the end there. But, though I view myself as an independent thinker willing to step outside traditional gender norms and expectations, somewhere along the way I've been socialized with a need to feel smaller (at the very least shorter) than whomever I end up with.

My mother, I'm sure, will tell me I'm too picky when she reads this. And maybe I am. But he was daintier than I. I had flashbacks of shopping with friends in junior high school at 5 7 9, knowing I was more of an 11 or a 13.


And, more importantly, he lacked that intellectual spark I find so appealing (that intellectual spark makes up for a myriad of sizing disparities). And so I categorize this date as yet another learning experience about myself in relation to the single men of this world. I am officially putting this out into the universe, my dear Nerd in Shining Armor: ANY.TIME.NOW. I'm ready for dating retirement. Aren't you?

Godzilla over and out.


10 comments:

Rice Family said...

Oh Brooke ... I laughed way too hard while reading this post! Godzilla you are not! ;) I will say a little prayer that your nerd-in-shining-armor will find you, and soon. Until then, stay picky.

silvernic said...

Poor guy. It's not easy being little and stupid. Maybe he'll join my club.

Shannon said...

Brooke, I do know that feeling...the godzilla feeling. It's the worst. Ever. I totally understand just not being able to get past that. I'm glad he was a gentleman, though. He's got good taste, however, so I do give him that.

Libby said...

Even thinking about dating gives me diarrhea! TMI, I know.

You're definitely no Godzilla, but if you must categorize yourself thusly...then I sincerely hope you find your Mothra!!

Jen said...

I have had that problem, too. I am 5 8.

I also agree, stay picky. I just found a letter I wrote when I was single to a friend defending myself in being picky. It is nice now in retrospect to think that I was right.

Mrs. Bennett said...

Dating just sucks. Hang in there, you'll find a good one!

Anonymous said...

i completely understand you. as i age, i have slowly dropped my standard from 6'tall => 5'10 => 5'8 and then only require the guy to be taller than me (i'm 5'3). i hope i won't end up with a midget at the end.

Lildonbro said...

I relate - I'm 5'11...

But I agree - I like an intellectual spark and without that whatever it is I have going with a guy will not last. I know - I have learned that I get cranky when I am deprived of intellectual conversations with the boy I am dating. Weird? Yes.

Keep hanging in there.

Rie Pie said...

I think I need to become pickier. I pretty much go for the 6'5" man who has the IQ of a brick. Which to be honest, I don't need a genius, but I do need a man who is smart enough to know the difference between being kind and being a db.

Treva said...

I have to say that is funny...i was told by a guy I was too picky and set the boundaries and limits so high it was almost like I expected the man to fail. I was also informes in that same lecture that men dont like limits and didnt want and wouldnt wait for sexual activity. Well buddy I guess you had better move on find someone with less limits. Lol